Asking for help means believing the other person wants to see me succeed. PSC 19

There are simple gestures that take great inner strength. Asking for help is one of them. It's an act of courage, but above all an act of faith in people: the faith that the other person isn't waiting for me to fall so they can judge me, but that they may be ready to lend me a hand, to support me, to see me succeed.

PSC 19 is the competency of chosen interdependence. When we talk about a psychosocial competency, here we mean knowing how to spot your needs, daring to name them, and putting them to another person in a dynamic of collaboration.

It's rejecting the myth of self-sufficiency, to make room for another story: one where my success doesn't isolate me, but creates connection. One where others aren't obstacles, but resources.

Why is it difficult? Because we've sometimes been taught to handle everything alone, not to be a bother, not to show our flaws. But asking for help isn't apologising for existing. It's saying to the other person: "I trust you. I think you can help me. I'm reaching out to you."

And for that, you need:
• A healthy self-esteem, to acknowledge that you don't know everything.
• A healthy regard for the other person, to believe they can, and want to, contribute.
• A sound intention, geared towards cooperation, not offloading.

Why for leaders? Want to create a culture of mutual help in your team? Start by setting the example. Dare to say: "I don't have the answer. I need your insight." This isn't losing face. It's opening a space of trust, contribution, and recognition.

👉 In teams where asking for help is valued, we observe fewer hidden errors, more innovation, and a safer climate.

In connection with human motivation According to self-determination theory (Deci & Ryan), this competency strengthens:
• social connection: I create a positive, sincere interaction.
• competence: I equip myself to progress, I seek answers.
• autonomy: I decide not to suffer in silence, but to move forward with support.

Asking for help is therefore very much a free, competent, and deeply human choice.

🎯 Challenge Today, identify a topic, even a small one, where you feel some hesitation. Then formulate a request for help that's concrete, clear and owned. Observe not only the response… but above all what it changes in you.

And to go further, explore PSC 16 (effective communication) and PSC 17 (developing social connections) too.
see you tomorrow,
Krumma